Couples therapy for two people who have almost given up.
EFT for couples in South Jersey, in person and online.
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CALL NOW FOR YOUR FREE CONSULTATIONBefore I take a couples case, I ask each of you the same question, separately.
Is there still something here you want?
Some couples answer that honestly for the first time in years.
If the answer is a hard one, you’ll get it from me early, because manufactured hope costs you more than the truth does.
That first answer sets the terms for everything after it.
Every week the decision goes un-made, the two of you settle a little further into whatever you’re already doing.
That looks like days without talking to each other, and arguments that start over something small and end somewhere neither of you meant to go.
Doing nothing is still an answer, and you’re both living inside it.
You can make this decision on purpose, together, with someone in the room.
Emotionally Focused Therapy is research-backed, and it runs on emotion.
What it goes after is the fear and the wanting under the argument, because that is where a marriage turns.
In EFT, emotion is the agent of change, which is why I can’t do this part for you.
The approach has somewhere to go the moment you’re both actually in it.
Both of you willing is the whole starting condition.
The sessions get honest quickly, and I’ll keep both of you in the conversation while they do.
None of that arrives by accident, and none of it arrives without both of you.
Understand the underlying emotions driving your reactions, with both of you hearing it at the same time.
You both start telling the truth.
Replace the habits that escalate you both with responses the other person can take in, while it’s still happening.
The argument stops running you.
You practice the new way of responding until it belongs to you rather than to the sessions.
You keep it going without me.
Teresa Pressley, MA, LMFT, ACS
I work within Emotionally Focused Therapy, a research-backed model for couples, and I’ll say plainly that I’m trained in it rather than certified.
If one of you has already left the marriage in your head, you’ll hear that from me early instead of a long way into the work.
Married thirty-seven years myself and certified in Prepare and Enrich, I bring the training and the mileage to what the two of you are deciding.
I’m a relationship specialist, and caring for people is my superpower.
By the time two people sit down across from me, they’ve usually been living in a divided house long enough that they’ve quit expecting anything else. The first thing I give them is a room where the whole story can come out and where they feel seen, heard, and cared for while it does.
Come anyway, both of you, and say that out loud in the first session. I’d rather work with one willing partner and one skeptical one than with two people performing agreement.
You’ll both be there, and I’ll ask each of you what you want out of this. Then I’ll tell you what I think is workable.
Both. I see couples in South Jersey and I’m licensed in New Jersey and Pennsylvania, so we can meet in my office or on video.
Then we do that part well. If ending is where you both land, I’ll help you end it amicably instead of in the worst version of it.
Infidelity is part of this work and I don’t flinch at it. Together we sort out whether you’re repairing the marriage you had or starting a different one with the same person.
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Each of you has been circling this decision on your own for a while now. Make it together instead, in a session where you both have to answer it in front of each other, and where I’ll hold you to what you say you want.
You picked each other for the life you both had in mind, and what the two of you are really deciding is whether you can still get to it. Reach out, and we’ll find out together whether it’s there.
Two people who both say yes have something real to work with.
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